So maybe some of you can relate. This year when Cory and I sat down to discuss our joint new year's resolutions (yes we have personal and joint ones) the first thing that came to mind was that we needed to set weekly date nights. Don't you think it's somewhat comical that we need to make a goal to "date" eachother. I mean we have only been married for four years....shouldn't it be natural and easy to want to spend time together away from the kids? Here's my opinion on what happened to "us" lol.
1. We are both super financially aware. We base a lot of decisions primarily on cost. If we decide to go out for dinner we know it will cost us at least $50 for our meal and $20 for a baby-sitter. Cory will take this one step further and conclude that $70 for a night out means that he worked for such and such hours. In the end we usually decide that it's much more economical for us to eat a home cooked meal and save on the baby-sitter.
2. We are always so tired. Actually, maybe just me. As much as I love going out, I am usually exhausted by the end of the day. Two tots and being prego might have something to do with it. Cory is naturally a home body and likes to stay in anyway, and the last thing I want to put energy into is convincing Cory that we should go out and spend money.
3. We are so not creative. I know there must be things you can do for free on a date...but we just can't think of them. (We are at least trying harder now).
So here's what I've come up with so far. Again, I never thought I would have to think so hard when it comes to dates with my husband.
1. Friday is officially DATE NIGHT
2. Once a month we will go out for dinner and yes we will pay for a baby-sitter...lol.
3. The other three or four Fridays we will have an inexpensive at-home date. We will rotate between the following activities.
- Rent a movie
- Family history work (neither of us have ever done it before so we thought it would be a good thing to start together)
- Yoga or some other excercise DVD (Cory doesn't actually know about this yet...lol)
Obviously we need ideas. Cory doesn't really like card games....but if you have any other suggessions PLEASE help. LOL!
4 months ago
For dates with a sitter, we go for walks or we go to the mall and browse (and usually by an ice cream or something).
ReplyDeleteFor at home dates...ours always revolve around TV and movies...lame. But when I'm home in the evenings, I just want to veg out and do nothing.
Good for you for setting the date night goal. We didn't get serious about it until we'd been married about 7 years...it was after we lost our baby girl...and then somehow the money didn't seem as important as spending the time together out of the house. Crazy how that works.
Hey Leiah! I think this is a great goal. We have also talked about this recently, but once a week sounds so often to spend the dough! So I totally get this. You guys though, should fill both of your parents in on your goal, and swap babysitting back and forth between them! BAM! Saved money. haha just kidding, I know it's not that easy, but man I would kill to have family near by that would babysit!
ReplyDeleteSo, Jeremy and I are not great at this at all, but, we do have some two player games that aren't cards that we get out on special nights! A favorite is called Stratego. I hadn't played it before, but it's fun. There's also like battleship, backgammon, and connect 4. Sounds boring, but sometimes it's fun! Anyway, I'm all up for ideas too, because it cam be tough! Miss you guys! Hope you're feeling good this pregnancy!
Totally agree with this post, you sound like us! Who can afford to date really?!
ReplyDeleteWe are also trying to be better at this. We are going to take turns thinking up ideas, I'll let you know how it goes.